“There are always three speeches, for every one you actually gave. The one you practised, the one you gave and the one you wish you gave.”- Dale Carnegie
Public speaking is an art which everyone wants to acquire but few actually command. Whenever we talk about the art, most of the people take a step back as they feel fear in their heart and butterflies in their stomach. Where do they lack? I can recall thoughts of a famous orator who admitted that ground work is the key behind his success. People think that they can speak on any topic and at any time, but the truth is that they need to always keep themselves prepared and updated. We appreciate good orators and declare them ‘blessed with great style and skill’ but don’t try to figure out the power that actually makes them blessed which comes from confidence, practice and knowledge.
I have seen many professionals who speak with great confidence but confess in person that they, too, feel nervous when they address a group of people. Then how do they present themselves as confident and what is the trick behind it all? Actually there is no trick as such, it’s just dealing with our own mind that plays games with us. Talking about the fear of public speaking, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) suggests: ‘Tell yourself that you are there to make an impact and send signals to your subconscious mind with the help of positive affirmations’. Therefore, to inculcate this skill in your personality grab each opportunity to speak, calm yourself, share your thoughts and create an impact. Remember to keep on charging your thoughts. It is not only about influencing others, but it also gives clarity about our own vision, values, beliefs, attitude and behaviour.
-Dr. Shikha Kaushik Kulkarni